Dreams and Goals, part 2

Posted by on Apr 23, 2013 in Kaizen-Muse, Ultimate Blog Challenge | 8 comments

Dreams and Goals, part 2

Yesterday I talked about goals vs. dreams, and how we relate to them differently.

The funny thing is that sometimes we do set ourselves goals, and we forget them. Yesterday, I found a list, meticulously written out in a friend’s handwriting, from a goal-setting exercise we once did. It’s a 2-column grid, with five boxes on each side. The boxes range from “Now” to “50 years” and most of them have 3 or 4 items listed. It’s dated January 7, 2002, and it was neatly tucked away in a drawer, long forgotten.

I looked over this list and I was fascinated by what’s on it. The “1 year” box, for instance, includes, “New car.” Now, I know I wasn’t desperately in need of a new car in January of that year. I am pretty sure that I put it down as much for something to fill the space as because hey, why not? But I also know that in August of 2002, I sold my Saturn and picked up the Honda I’ve been driving ever since.
Then there’s the “10 year” box, which includes “travel abroad or living in a foreign country.” Well, I never managed the latter, but I did get to London three years in a row between 2002 and now. And “write a full length play or novel” is in that box, too. I finished my MFA thesis novel in 2009 (and revised it in 2010)—neatly within the ten year timespan.

It’s not a perfect science

Not everything on the list has happened, of course. I have to laugh when I see that I thought I was going to resolve all my “childhood crap” in a year. (Was it going to be tied up in a  pretty red bow, too?) And just over ten years later, I’m still living in a condo, not a house.

Still, I have to wonder if the fact that I wrote these things down 11 years ago somehow primed the gears to make them happen on some subconscious level. Or maybe they were dreams I had that I hadn’t fully articulated, even when I made the list? I don’t know. I do know that the list makes me think of a book I have (but have not yet read) called Write It Down, Make It Happen. Coincidence? I don’t know about that, either, but I am thinking perhaps I should live it up and read the book!
What are your goals and dreams? Have you written any of them down, even if you don’t take some of them all that seriously? I’d love to hear your experiences, especially if you’ve ever found a list like mine.

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8 Comments

  1. Beautiful! Your writing is very sweet and from the heart. I enjoyed this very much. Made me want to write my dreams down again as though I was a little girl still… awww makes things much simpler :)

    • Thanks, Danielle. Go ahead and make a list–then put it away and see what’s happened by the time you find it again!

  2. Oh, yes, definitely priming the pump and getting your subconscious to work for you. With the Summer on the horizon, think its time to reawaken those dreams, hopes, prayers and goals for the rest of the year.

    It is always a joy to visit you!
    Julie Jordan Scott recently posted..Your Life as a Story: A Challenge or an Opportunity?My Profile

    • Thanks so much, Julie! You’re right–now that we’re nearly a third of the way through the year, it’s a good time to sit back and take stock.

  3. Nancy,
    A goal and dream that I keep forgetting to remember that I’ve accomplished is the goal that my child(ren) would reach the age I was (19 at the time) and be farther ahead in living their own lives, knowing their own minds, and reaching for their own dreams.

    When my oldest two reached that point, it absolutely did not look like what my vague memory of the idealized mental image of what I thought I meant looked like. However, as I’ve been working at resolving a significant portion of my own crud, I’ve taken stock of who they are, where they are at, what they’ve come through, and the direction they are heading. Now, I realize that my parenting dream and goal has been accomplished with them, even if it doesn’t always feel like I thought it would.

    I’m also seeing that manifest in my four year old’s life and who she is.

    Now, I’m starting to remember other dreams and goals I used to have about writing and helping others and seeing that manifest as well. Again, it doesn’t necessarily resemble what I thought it would, but being open to seeing what is going on and happening instead of focusing on what it doesn’t look like, has been critical to my own growth and understanding.
    Blessings,
    Kina
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    • Kina, thank you so much for this comment, and for reminding me–and all of us–how important it is to remember that our goals and dreams don’t always look like we wanted them to. And, as you say, that’s okay! This is true in so many of life’s endeavors, and I think it’s so important that I may write a post about it. :)

  4. In grad school we did a process called ‘making an Ideal Scene.’ The idea was to spend some time in contemplation and exploratory conversation, and then to write a multiparagraph description of your life at a predetermined point – say, a year from today, or October 25, 2017, or something equally specific.

    Describe where you live, who you live with, what you’re doing with your days, what you ‘work’ at, what you ‘play’ at, your spiritual practice, even your diet. Use lots of adjectives and ‘feeling words.’

    When I did this in 1998, I was living in a very crowded, somewhat dirty house, and thinking about building the house we eventually moved into in 2000. The Ideal Scene I wrote was aimed at one year ahead, and everything else that was in it came true within that year – the house was only about 4 months over schedule.

    Powerful process, this – especially if you either:

    Write it with lots of emotion, read it over daily for a few days, and then put it away.

    or

    Write it with lots of emotion and then post it somewhere where you will see it often.

    • Wow…that is deep stuff, Maggie (which is absolutely zero surprise, coming from you!). Would you mind if I borrow it? Might be useful for folks in the Soulful Decluttering class, among others. It’s sort of like a verbal vision board, and possibly more effective. Thank you for sharing it!

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