SoulCollage® Sunday: Self-Care Reading

Posted by on Nov 4, 2012 in Kaizen-Muse, SoulCollage | 9 comments

SoulCollage® Sunday: Self-Care Reading

As I mentioned in yesterday’s Intro to SoulCollage® post, I was so busy with hurricane preparations last Sunday that I completely forgot to put up a SoulCollage® post. I recently did a three-card reading and decided that, for something a little different, I’d post that reading today to make up for last week’s missing post. I’ve never really been good at self-care and often feel like I don’t really understand what it means (in fact, I think I was puzzled when I first heard the term many years ago), so it seemed a good topic for a multi-card reading.

A SoulCollage® reading can be made up of many cards, and can take many forms. For this reading, I chose  three random cards and stuck to a basic format. I started with a few “I am the One Who…” statements for each card, and then I asked each one the same question: “What does self-care look like?” You can see cards and their answers below.

Card 1: Dottie:

(This is a Community suit card I made in honor of a dear friend who passed away this summer.)


Who are you?

I am the one who takes care of you. I am the one who has known you forever. I am your “adopted grandmother.” I am the one who is wise, caring, and compassionate—and never takes myself too seriously.

What does self-care look like?

Self-care looks like doing for yourself the things you would do for others. Are you warm/cool enough? Do you need to eat? What are you eating? Have you given yourself a hug lately? Have you followed your first thought—your intuition? It’s no good to you if you don’t follow it. Have you taken time to be quiet? To hear yourself? Have you laughed? And have you listened to good music? Something to soothe your soul?

Believing in yourself is key, you know. Believing in yourself, and learning how to love yourself. Let me know if you want to work on this with me.

Card 2: Spills

(This card and the next are both part of my Muse Suit, composed of Jill Badonsky’s Modern-Day Muses)

Who are you?

I am the one who makes mistakes. I am the one who doesn’t care about being perfect. I am the one who falls down with my legs in the air and knows it’s okay. I am not afraid to be messy. I am as likely to put paint on the end of my nose as on paper. If I don’t hit the mark, oh well! There’s always next time.

What does self-care look like?

It looks like not trying too hard. Like being yourself and enjoying your imperfections rather than trying to remove them. Being your for you. Not getting so uptight. Meditating even if it’s only for ten minutes a day. Laugh at yourself and at life—don’t make it so damn serious. Be the messenger of silliness and imperfection wherever you can.

Card 3: Audacity

Who are you?

I am the one who is brave. I am the one who is me, and only me. I am not anyone else, for any reason. I fly free and don’t care what anyone else thinks. I dare to be myself even if it lands me in uncharted territory.

What does self-care look like?

It looks like being yourself. Being militantly on your own side. No one else is going to do that for you. It looks like going out on that limb—not to show off but because you are called to do it and to avoid it would deny who you are. It means not giving a damn about what others think. Taking the leap and knowing you have wings and won’t fall. If you let others define you and make decisions for you, you are not caring for yourself—you are building your own prison.

SoulCollage® cards are made either from one’s own art or from images found in materials which have been bought by or given to the SoulCollage card maker.

These collaged cards are used only for the cardmaker’s own inner exploration. SoulCollage® cards are not sold, traded, bartered, or copied (except as a back-up for the cardmaker’s own use) as is stated in the Principles of SoulCollage®. Where SoulCollage® cards are available to be seen by others, it is for the purposes either of demonstrating the SoulCollage® process or of sharing the cardmaker’s inner process in the context of community. SoulCollage® is grateful to the artists and photographers who make this deep awakening process possible and in all ways SoulCollage® seeks to be respectful of their rights.


  1. Very interesting reading and insights. I’ve talked to my daughter, greand daughter and my grendson’s wife. Also to the group of pagan ladies I meet with once a month. I’ve ordered the book and can’t wait to make some cards. I need magazines! LOL
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    • Once you start doing SoulCollage®, you’ll never see magazines the same way again! :) (Don’t forget calendars, too!)

  2. Fascinating post, Nancy – I love your insight that it’s hard to practise self-care when you’re not sure what it looks like for you.

    You’ve prompted me to think deeper about what it looks like for me now!


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    • Thanks, Tanja! I find, in many different aspects of life, that it’s tough to comprehend something if I’m not sure what it looks like. That may just be because I’m a visual person—I don’t know! But knowing sure seems to help.

  3. Hi Nancy,

    I was not familiar with Soul Collage, so thank you. I need to further explore. I want to know how you chose the themes for your cards.

    And the timing on your exploration of self care is perfect. I am revamping my business – really more reorganizing/reprioritizing it – and self care is one of four themes that I will be focusing on. For my whole adult life I have been pretty terrible at self care until last year when I made a big investment in myself and committed to working with a gifted nutritionist and coach. It was way beyond my means at the time, but things have worked out and the investment has paid off in spades. Deep self care is, I believe, the key to EVERYTHING.

    Much enjoyed, thank you!

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    • Hi, Crystal,

      I am rapidly coming to the same conclusion you have about self-care. I’m still figuring out how that works, but I can see where it’s the foundation to everything else.

      About the cards, with SoulCollage®, you generally don’t “choose themes” for cards. I don’t know if you’ve seen the Introduction to SoulCollage® post I put up a few days ago, but in that post I explained the process of finding and arranging images. SoulCollage is almost always an intuitive process. I don’t name my cards because they may mean one thing to me one day and something else on another (others do name them; SoulCollage® is also a very individual process). Occasionally I’ll make one from a prompt, in which case that prompt will always be associated with it, but even so, that may not be a “theme” for the card, or certainly not all the time. A card like the Dottie card, of course, will always represent the person it was made to honor, and is an example of a card made intentionally, but the real power of SoulCollage® is in accessing your intuition as much as possible.

      Let me know if you still have questions!

  4. Nancy, I’ve been interested in Soul Collage for a while. Thanks for sharing your cards and process so I can really see how cool and valuable Soul Collage cards are!

    I appreciate the reminder from Spills not to take things so seriously. I hadn’t thought about that being an aspect of self-care, but in a way, it’s the crux of the whole thing, at least for me. Self-care means I’m not seeing everything else in the world as very serious and important while my own needs are minimized. It also means letting go of worry…so hard, but so needed.

    • Hi, Sue! I’m so glad to have given you a better look into the SoulCollage® process. It’s an amazing thing, I think, and I’m so very grateful that I found it. It’s helped me in so many ways already, and I really think that I’ve only scratched the surface in the work I’ve done for myself. (I confess, I tend to get so caught up in making cards, and then don’t bother to use them, which as one of my fellow facilitators says, is like preparing the meal but not eating it!)

      You know, I was surprised by Spills, and even more by Audacity. When I turned them over, I thought, “Oh, man, what are they going to have to say about this?” And yet…they did! And looking at Audacity in particular, I think they may have been exactly the voices I needed to hear. Funny how that happens… :)

  5. What beautiful revelations about self-care. x
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